Thursday, May 17, 2018

Educating myself so I can empower my boys

I cannot get enough of this website.  It severely hurts my heart thinking my little boys will one day be exposed to pornography (I know it's impossible to avoid completely), but hope fills my heart when I think of all the tools we will have equipped them with when that darn time comes.  They will be strong, confident, and sure.  They will look away, close, and come to us.  I will pray every day for them to put what we've taught them into practice.  (Well, I'd love for there to be no practice...but)  And I'm learning that what it really comes down to is "layering."  This quote sums it up:

We hear a lot of sad stories of people that were completely blindsided. We have learned that people are not talking about it enough. They are still unaware of what’s taking place around them. People want a step by step plan for what to say. They love the CAN DO Plan from Protect Young Minds because it gives them a place to start. But it feels like some people want a Band-Aid – they want the answer that’s going to fix this problem. But our whole presentation is about layering: layer your protections, layer your filters, layer those conversations. You just keep building those layers to protect children. That might be a little intimidating for people, but that’s why we’re talking to them about it.”

That quote is from this article that I loved:

How a Fearless Mother-Daughter Duo Teach Parents to Protect Children from Porn

And this is very empowering too:

Safe Playdates:  3 Strategies for Setting Media Ground Rules

Wednesday, May 2, 2018

Possibilities of what could happen when a mom turns her back for .08 seconds too long...

1)  Your 8 month old will put a leaf in his mouth, start choking, sort of briefly stop breathing, choke some more, you will freak out, do the baby heimlich (full on pounding his back while he's flipped upside down), freak out some more, swipe your finger back in his throat further than you thought it could go until you finally get the blasted thing out.

2)  Your 3 year old will get suspiciously quiet and upon investigation he will have the bottle of baby Tylenol that you meant to put away but hadn't yet in his hands with the evidence on his face, with a third of the bottle gone.

3)  Your 3 year old will get into the knives that you thought were out of his reach.  They now sit more than three feet above where he could ever climb...

4)  Your 3 year old will pick up your 8 month old and place him on the couch.

5)  Your 3 year old will put a grape in your 8 month old's mouth.

6)  Your 3 year old will put playdough on your 8 month old's high chair, who then eats it, and when you discover this you see it's all over the roof of his mouth and playdough + saliva = trickiness.

7)  Your 3 year old will kick a ball and it will hit your 8 month old (who is five inches away) directly in the face.